Dave Allen - Coach4Men

Lost a Core Identity?

Don’t know how you fit in anymore?

Feeling Stuck at a Life Inflection Point?

I help high-achieving folks in midlife and beyond who feel unmoored after major life changes — wondering, “Who am I now?” — find clarity, purpose, and a renewed sense of identity that fits who they’ve become.

I’m a life coach, mentor, and trusted thinking partner for people ready to reinvent themselves after significant transitions in career, relationship, or purpose. My clients are accomplished and capable — they’ve built impressive lives by mastering performance, ambition, and intellect. But when success stops feeling like them, they come to me to rediscover the deeper truth beneath the titles and achievements.

The work we do together explores the fertile space between who you were and who you are becoming. The inflection point. It’s not a crisis — it’s a course correction, an opportunity to reorient around aliveness, connection, and meaning.

My approach combines the sharpness of a Fortune 50 executive mindset with the intuitive clarity of deep inner work. Before founding my coaching practice, I led teams with multi-billion-dollar responsibilities in a high-pressure environment where precision mattered. Later, I moved into purpose-driven work that integrated play, emotion, and embodiment. That path taught me that power and presence aren’t opposites — they’re partners.

My own life has unfolded through a series of profound identity shifts: Eagle Scout with Palms, Order of the Arrow, Mormon missionary in Switzerland, Fortune 50 leader, erotic educator, and life coach. Each chapter has challenged me to shed an old identity and discover what’s next. Reinvention has become the primary lens of my coaching as I help others work through reimaging their identity with courage, grace, and self-trust.

I know how important fit is in a coaching relationship. The first coach I worked with actually fired me. He said I was smart, with an extremely high play quotient, too hard to categorize. At the time, I was frustrated. Now I see it as one of my most formative moments. It showed me how vital it is to find a coach who can hold your fullness — not shrink it.

You might be seeking a coach like me if:

• You’ve built your life on intellect and drive but now feel pulled toward something more authentic and whole.
• The idea of coaching feels slightly edgy — but something in you knows it’s time.
• You hold your inner world close and value deep privacy in your personal growth.

What I’m best at:

• Helping you navigate identity, purpose, and possibility with compassion and clarity.
• Getting you unstuck — out of the fog and back into motion toward what matters.
• Strengthening your emotional fluency, so feelings become guidance, not interference.
• Updating your personal operating system for your next act.
• Designing rituals and practices that anchor your transformation in daily life.

At the heart of this work are the ingredients of a fully lived life – play, purpose, and aliveness, which. When you reclaim those, identity naturally follows.